Well, I thought that was a fallacy. And only came from the 80s folks. Am twenty … years old, I look like a 20-year-old coz my age hides in my body but the truth is known by me, my family, and few friends.
My family, especially my mum feel I should be married/ maybe the marriage preparations should be on. At the same, my dad feels I visit home way too frequently. To him I should be out there, going out on dates, visiting sister churches once in a while, or attending random social functions.
Unfortunately, this ain’t me. Don’t get me wrong; I love going out but to enjoy nature which is not as cheap as they think for me. I just started working and I barely have savings. Nonetheless, my two friends are indoor guys the rest are just virtual.
With all the prospects from my family, I am not in a committed relationship, not met the dream guy nor feel the pressure to let my guard down. Funny right? I am happy this way but I know that the best way of life is through a family. That is how God designed it and it is perfect. I love family but not yet. Maybe someday.
The point is new items and things at home are being done or bought in my name. Mum said, ” we need new sofa covers and cushions, plus a new dining set for Tabbie visitors”. Wow😕! Did I announce that? No. This shows how desperate mum is while the subject is not. Am not close to marriage, not even a relationship.
Dad has a problem with me spending a week at home. He is noble not to paint this truth on my face, but seeing me every day for 7 days without me leaving the compound frustrates him. He keeps asking me “Tabbie what are you planing? what do you wanna do?”…. “Work is great am off this week coz I don’t have a project to work on. Am thinking about how to start freelancing as a website and web designer to have something of my own”. This freaks him out. I know it does but am glad he asks encrypted questions and I choose not to decrypt them😛.
My three siblings also seem concerned. All are in stable relationships, two are married while one is still dating. Maybe I have a problem. It seems so but am perfectly perfect no pressure from me. I will know once I come to that phase. I fight with my sister sometimes. She can’t take in a word from me simply because she is married and am not; but am older than her👵.
To avoid all the unnecessary talks about being single, am gladly spending my weekends at my house writing and reading. Most importantly working on me and going out on harmless dates.
Enjoy every phase of your life regardless!